Dr. RJ gave me tools to use when I start to feel overwhelmed and anxious. By the way, I scored a 1510 on my SAT and I honestly believe that Dr. RJ had a lot to do with that.
Libby Mitchell, 18-year-old
Sure, parents argue with their children about hygiene and screen time, but the intensity of these arguments does not compare to academic-related discussions.
You may find yourself frustrated with your child as it relates to academics because you know they are not living up to their potential. However, you see your child’s intelligence every day…
“The tips and techniques that Dr.RJ taught me has helped me tremendously! Before high school, I did not care much about my grades but now that I am making A’s, I really like school. Dr. RJ has helped me with my organization and he showed me how to be more efficient with my time.”
Sahir Allison,15-year-old
At times, it feels as though you have tried everything. You may be on the verge of giving up on your child.
It is natural to feel this way because if you have genuinely tried everything, then the solution to getting your child to care about school doesn’t exist.
“At first I did not understand why my mom hired Dr. RJ. It wasn’t until I had my first coaching session that I realized that having a life coach is so important. Dr. RJ noticed that fear was limiting my growth. I did not participate in any extracurricular activities. I did not try when it came to homework and tests. I didn’t even try to make any new friends. After he worked with me to overcome my fear, things started to improve in my life. Now, I play hockey, I have a fun friend group, and I make all As!”
Brody Hughes, 14-year-old
After coaching over 5,000 teenagers, I can confidently say that every child can perform at a higher level.
When an adolescent is underperforming in academics, parents usually follow this strategy:
“Dr. RJ helped me when life was most stressful. Before my SAT I was suffering from anxiety and depression. I honestly just felt stuck. I looked forward to my coaching sessions with Dr. RJ because he always helped me to see things in a whole new way. We worked through all of my issues (he calls them obstacles) and he gave me tools to use when I start to feel overwhelmed and anxious. By the way, I scored a 1510 on my SAT and I honestly believe that Dr. RJ had a lot to do with that.”
Libby Mitchell, 18-year-old
Before I tell you why I became a life coach for teenagers, I need to first tell you why I became an orthodontist.
You heard me right. I am an orthodontist 😁
When I was in high school, my guidance counselor asked me to pick a career. “What do you want to do for the rest of your life?” she asked.
I replied with the most common phrase used by all teenagers, “I don’t know.”
So she asked me a different question. “If you could make a difference in the world, what difference would you make.”
I thought about that question for a while. I knew she would not allow me to use that common phrase again.
I replied,“I want people to be happy. I would spread happiness.”
“Great! You have two options. You can be a comedian or you can be an orthodontist.”
(Life coaching wasn’t a career back then.)
My decision was easy at that point. I was not funny so I chose to be an orthodontist.
I thought to myself, “Smiles are the logo for happiness so why not be the guy who creates them.”
I never strayed from that path and in May of 2012, it was official. I was an orthodontist.
And I felt that I was following my life’s mission to spread happiness until May of 2016, something happened!
If you have never had braces then you probably do not know the celebration that occurs when braces come off. It is a happy occasion.
The patient is happy and sometimes crying tears of joy. The parents are happy. My team is happy and I am happy. This was the image that was in my mind that day in the counselor’s office when I decided that I was going to be an orthodontist.
But something happened. A few days later, I received a phone call from that parent telling me that her daughter was unhappy.
She knew I mentored teenagers so she asked if I could help.
“I would be happy to talk with her but it sounds like she needs a therapist.”
I had only mentored teenagers at that time. I wasn’t trained to handle a teenager who was struggling with depression.
But that wasn’t all, the next week the same thing happened again. This time with a different parent. And again I referred them to a therapist.
But that wasn’t it because the same thing happened a third time.
At that moment, I knew orthodontics, alone, was not going to be enough to fulfill my life’s purpose of spreading happiness among teenagers.
You see, if something happens once, then it is random.
If something happens twice, then it is a coincidence.
If something happens three times, then I need to pay attention.
So the moment after I spoke with the third parent, I immediately started to research how I could help these teenagers.
I was prepared to pursue a degree in therapy until all three parents told me that therapy was not helping their teen.
So I went back to the drawing board.
“After Alex joined his coaching program, I witnessed a transformation over four weeks. My son is much more motivated. I no longer have to fight with him about homework, and practice and video games. We are so grateful for Dr. RJ. After witnessing the transformation with Alex, I believe that every teenager could benefit from a life coach.”
-Adam DeLeon (Parent)
By now, you know the answer. You want to focus on the mental aspect, which makes up 80% of your child’s success.
Their thoughts and beliefs are the most critical aspects when determining how successful your child will be.
I discovered this need early in my career as a coach. Parents would try all the methods listed above without any success. The lack of success leads to frustration. Frustration always leads to a strained relationship.
Many parents believe that if their children were straight-A- students, all would be well. But, the fact is higher scores on tests will never fix strained relationships between adolescents and their parents. In my experience, resentment often remains after grades improve.
My program will improve your child’s grades, but more importantly, it will transform the relationship with your child. Therefore, my coaching program requires parents to participate.
Through video trainings, adolescents and parents will have the ability to learn and train during a time that’s convenient to them.
Studies from YouTube reveal that video trainings have a higher knowledge retention rate than live face-to-face learning.
We have used this format for years since it is ideal for students and busy parents.
The second component is coaching. Each week, I coach adolescents in a group format. Group coaching is ideal for adolescents due to the positive peer influence phenomenon. In addition, we find that adolescents become more excited about coaching when they see a group of their peers participating (some teenagers prefer one-to-one interaction; therefore, we offer private coaching upon request).
Therapy (with health insurance coverage) costs between $2,193- $2,938.
Unfortunately, therapy does not guarantee any results even after investing this amount. Most teenagers quit after three years of therapy, even though they continue to struggle with the same problems.
Here is what parents have to say!
Dr. RJ gave me tools to use when I start to feel overwhelmed and anxious. By the way, I scored a 1510 on my SAT and I honestly believe that Dr. RJ had a lot to do with that.
My mom and I had a great conversation and I felt like I understood her more. Now, I notice my triggers more and I feel like I see things from others’ perspectives.
After Dr. RJ worked with me to overcome my fear, things started to improve in my life. Now, I play hockey, I have a fun friend group, and I make all A’s!
Dr. RJ has helped me with my organization and he showed me how to be more efficient with my time.
I really enjoyed the first episode I listened to. I love the tone and honesty and think this show is going to provide to be super helpful and insightful.
I love this podcast! First, I noticed right away how the host connects so well with the teenagers.
You can tell in his podcast that he is really passionate about what he does! This is a great way to get good insight on the struggles of what teenagers go through.
I really love that this podcast gives teens and parents of teens, a place to connect together. Teenage years are a busy time for parents and kids.
I wish Dr. RJ was there when I was a teen! This podcast is extremely essential, especially in times like this when technology is disconnecting the youth from adults.
As an educational administrator in public schools, appreciated!!
Dr. RJ has a unique and effective approach for connecting with teens, on difficult issues. Highly recommend you check out this fun and important podcast.
This is really interesting and engaging podcast. I am a huge fan.