The reason why I have had so much success “curing” teenager’s issues is because of my ability to help them manage their thoughts.
I do not prescribe a magical pill. I do not have them lie down on a couch and tell me about their problems. I do not berate the parents, and tell them that it is their fault.
I simply direct your teenager’s focus to the one thing that produces growth, excitement, and motivation, and that is
When your teen shifts their focus from problems of the past, to possibilities of the future, their mood changes,
Their attitude changes,
Their emotions change.
I am successful with teens because I know how to shift their focus.
Now, I know what you are thinking.
“My teen is smart and successful AND my teen has GOALS,
My teen still has those problems, Oops I meant obstacles.”
First, great job on completing your assignment.
Secondly, my guess is that your teenager does not have actual GOALS.
After working with over 1,000 teenagers through orthodontics and life coaching, I can honestly say that teenagers rarely have real GOALS.
What teenagers have are
But not GOALS.
So my secret to success with teenagers is my ability to shift their focus.
The way that I shift their focus is to turn those wants, desires, hopes and dreams into actual GOALS.
And the way you do that is by adding three components.
Goals have the following three components:
1. Set Intention
2. Action Plan
3. Time Frame
An intention is a direction. It is the ability to see a destination.
When you set an intention, you are giving instructions to your mind to focus all energy towards a particular destination.
It is like going on a road trip. Your intention would be the moment you make a decision on your destination.
Once you have set your intention and you know where you are going (in other words, what you want to achieve), then you need a plan to get there.
With the road trip analogy, this is the time to map out which highways you will to take. Where you will stop to eat. Which detours for site seeing, gas stops and more.
The action plan is your step by step instructions to get to your destination.
If your want, desire, hope, and dream does not have daily and weekly planned actions in place, then it is not a GOAL.
This is simply how long will it take to get your want, experience your desire, turn your hope into a reality, or live your dream.
How long will it take?
Using the road trip analogy, your time frame would be how long will it take for you to reach your destination.
I bet if you ask your child how long will it take for them to accomplish their “goal,” they would not be able to give you an accurate time frame.
Did you just see what happened.
As I was explaining what goals are, you immediately started to think about the possibilities for yourself.
You found this website because you were worried and possibly stressed, but for a moment the worry and stress disappeared.
You experienced excitement knowing that there are some goals that you yourself want to pursue.
This is exactly what will happen with your teen during our first session.