Tips for Raising Confident Children: What Kids and Teenagers Need to Learn

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Kids learn new skills right from birth and they do this at a dizzying rate. Along with the new abilities they acquire, they also develop the confidence to use them. But as they grow older, the confidence they acquire can become as important as the skills they learned. In order for them to flourish and succeed, they also need to trust in their own capabilities and know how to handle it if they are not successful at something. When they experienced mastery and know how to rebound from failure, this is when they start to develop self-confidence in a healthy way.

Here are some of the most effective ways you can set your kids up to feel proficient and adept while getting the most out of their skills and talents.

Modeling Confidence

As a parent, your kids learn confidence from you. This is why it is important for you to model confidence yourself even if you are not quite feeling it. When your children see how you tackle new tasks highly prepared and optimistic, it helps set a good example for them. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to focus on the positive things even if you are acknowledging your own anxiety.

Don’t Make Every Mistake A Big Deal

When your child makes a mistake, don’t be upset about it. Help encourage them to see that we are all bound to make mistake someday but the most important thing is not to dwell on them but to learn from them. A confident person is not afraid of failure not because they are convinced that they would not fail but by knowing how to take every failure in a stride.

Try New Things

It is important, in order to build confidence among children, to encourage and embolden them to try new things. Instead of concentrating all their attention and energy on the things they are already good at, it is actually good for them to diversify. When they reach a new level of proficiency or attain new skills, it makes them feel more confident and capable. It emboldens them further to tackle whatever comes their way in the future.

Setting Goals

No matter how big or small the goal is, it is important to always articulate this to your children. Achieving them will make them feel strong and will help turn every desire into attainable dreams.

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