These are real issues that young adults face.

And although they are no longer a teen, you know that these issues can hold them back in life.

So you worry.

You stay up late thinking about what will happen if the issues listed above are not “fixed.”

And what makes you most disappointed is that you know that they are capable of much more.

Young adults who struggle with these issues rarely fix them on their own. And by the time life events move them in the right direction, so much time has been wasted.

Another problem that young adults face is pressure. This pressure is different from what they experienced in high school. It is much more debilitating.

The cause of this pressure is them realizing that they are considered “failures” in life.

Before, they could blame their parents. They could blame their teachers. They could blame the fact that they do not like school. But now, they have no one to blame but themselves. They start to realize that they are not good enough.

The feeling of not being good enough can lead to the following issues down the road:

I have had so much success coaching young adults because of my ability to help them set, pursue, and accomplish the things they want in life.

I do not prescribe a magical pill. I do not have them lie down on a couch and tell me about their problems. I do not criticize parents and tell them that it is their fault.

Instead, I direct your young adult’s focus to the one thing that produces growth, excitement, and motivation, and that is

GOALS.

When your young adult shifts their focus from feeling like a failure to feeling like they can accomplish anything, their mood changes,

Their attitude changes,

Their emotions change.

I am successful with young adults because I know how to get them excited about creating the life of their dreams.

The following is the exact framework I use to help young adults transform their lives:

1. Remove Limiting Beliefs
2. Clarify Their Desires
3. Set and Pursue Goals

Remove Limiting Beliefs

When young adults believe they are “not good enough,” their overall success will be limited.

That is why our coaches focus primarily on the belief system.

Many parents believe that if their child gets into a good college or lands an internship, they will be successful.

Sure, this helps but what’s more important is that your child believes they “are enough” and can accomplish anything they desire.

Clarify Their Desires

Once your child removes limiting beliefs and starts believing in themselves, they must learn to clarify their desires. When a person has a mindset shift, they begin to dream big. This is great, but dreaming is not enough to maximize their potential. They need to set out to create the life they want. The only way to do that is they must first have clarity. It is easy to say, “I want a good job.” But what is a “good job?” It’s easy to say, “I want lots of money.” But how much is a lot of money? It is easy to say, “I want a happy life.” But what does a happy life look like?

One of the most significant issues with most young adults, even those in Ivy League schools, is they have an idea of what they want but are not extremely clear about what they want.

Young adults must clarify their desires to have direction and motivation.

Set and Pursue Goals

Now your young adult is ready to take action towards their goals. This process seems simple, but there is a specific framework that each individual must learn if they want to increase their chances of accomplishing goals.

I learned that to be an effective coach; I must be an effective teacher. Our coaches train young adults on the same framework that Billionaires such as Elon Musk and Bill Gates use when setting and pursuing goals.

During coaching sessions, the coach will help your young adults set and pursue goals to help them create the life they desire.

Before I tell you why I became a life coach for adolescents and young adults, I need first to tell you why I became an orthodontist.

You heard me right. I am an orthodontist 😁

When I was in high school, my guidance counselor asked me to pick a career. “What do you want to do for the rest of your life?” she asked.

I replied with the most common phrase used by all young adults, “I don’t know.”

So she asked me a different question. “If you could make a difference in the world, what difference would you make.”

I thought about that question for a while. I knew she would not allow me to use that common phrase again.

I replied, “I want people to be happy. So I would spread happiness.”

“Great! You have two options. You can be a comedian, or you can be an orthodontist.”

(Life coaching wasn’t a career back then.)

My decision was easy at that point. I was not funny, so I chose to be an orthodontist.

I thought, “Smiles are the logo for happiness, so why not be the guy who creates them.”

I never strayed from that path, and in May of 2012, it was official. I was an orthodontist.

I enjoy creating smiles!

And I felt that I was following my life’s mission to spread happiness until May 2016, something happened!

If you have never had braces, then you probably do not know the celebration that occurs when braces come off. It is a happy occasion.

The patient is happy and sometimes crying tears of joy. The parents are delighted. My team is ecstatic, and I am overjoyed. This was the image that was in my mind that day in the counselor’s office when I decided that I was going to be an orthodontist.

But something happened. A few days later, I received a phone call from that parent telling me her daughter was depressed.

She knew I mentored young adults, so she asked if I could help.

“I would be happy to talk with her, but it sounds like she needs a therapist.”

I had only mentored young adults at that time. So I wasn’t trained to handle a young adult struggling with depression.

But that wasn’t all, the next week the same thing happened again. And again, I referred them to a therapist.

But that wasn’t the end. The same thing happened a third time.

At that moment, I knew orthodontics alone would not be enough to fulfill my life’s purpose of spreading happiness among young adults.

You see, if something happens once, then it is random.

If something happens twice, then it is a coincidence.

If something happens three times, then I need to pay attention.

So the moment after I spoke with the third parent, I immediately started researching how I could help these young adults.

I prepared to pursue a degree in therapy until all three parents told me that therapy was not helping their teens.

So I went back to the drawing board.

And that is when I discovered life coaching.

After a decade of life coaching, I have had the pleasure of helping over 7,000 adolescents, and young adults accomplish their goals.

I believe my success in coaching young adults comes from my ability to help them accomplish goals.

As a results-based coach, I focus on helping them create the life they desire. All humans have an idea as to how their life SHOULD be. Unhappiness comes from the discrepancy between their current life and how it should be, in their mind. The only way to remove the discrepancy is to be effective at setting and pursuing goals.

For your young adult to become effective at setting and pursuing goals, they must be trained and coached.

This is the same with any professional sport. The players are trained and coached.

That is why I created the most successful life coaching program for young adults.

We TRAIN, and we COACH.

My Signature 3 Step Process was created to help young adults set and pursue goals.

The first step is to PREPARE the mind.

Top performing athletes prepare their minds before doing any type of physical training. For life, the same process is required. So before your child tries to accomplish any goals, they must prepare mentally for the pursuit.

During this phase, we will address:

Doubt
Fear
Limiting beliefs
Negative self-talk

Young adults can release the pressure from feeling like a failure. Unfortunately, everyone has these thoughts (therefore, everyone needs to prepare their mind before pursuing a goal).

So, there is no need for a pity party; these thoughts are just obstacles that stand in the way of their goals.

So we treat them as such.

We list and identify them. Then we use tools to get rid of them.

Now, we are ready for the second step of my Signature 3 Step Process.

Step 2 is PLAN

This is the fun part.

During this phase, we brainstorm, research, and create our action plan.

Often times, we address decision-making (Young adults, as you know, can be indecisive).

Finally, we set our intentions, agree on a time frame, and develop a daily, weekly, and sometimes monthly action plan.

The final step in my Signature 3 Step Process is PURSUE

During this phase, life coaching is an absolute necessity!

Anytime young adults attempt to create a life they desire, the likelihood of success is directly correlated to their level of belief.

As a life coach, our job is to motivate and encourage your young adult as they take action. Therefore, we always look for collaborations. As with any big goal, networking can help you achieve it much faster.

One of the most significant factors that will decide success versus failure is accountability. When young adults are held accountable for their daily, weekly, and monthly action plans, they are more likely to follow through.

Finally, celebration along the way is a tool I often use to keep the momentum.